gender discussion- differentiation or identification? There are times when as a Man I find that I identify more with feminine-attributed traits. This label of female-attributed traits is misleading, unfair, and against liberation.
Let’s leave gender bias aside and just say that because I prefer to be gentle, tender, or sweet that I lean towards the ‘female’ side of the personality spectrum than if I exhibit insensitivity, brashness, arrogance, or indifference.
I don’t want to state that these are male defining traits any more than I want to label the gentle, tender, or sweet traits as being the property of only women.
Historically men have been defined as warrior, protector, defender, king, magician, and lastly perhaps artist or lover.
Women historically have been labelled as ‘goddess’ , queen, witch, nurse, teacher, artist, and lover.
The qualities or traits of vulnerability, sensitivity, creativity, and emotionality are rarely associated with ‘male identity’ and are more generally attributed to women.
This is false.
Men and women equally exist on a continuum spectrum of energies from strong to weak, from selfish to altruistic, from sensitive to indifferent, from placid to aggressive, from tender to rough, from warm to frigid.
The culture of shame and oppression of traits which are deemed ‘weak’ or ‘feminine’ needs to stop.
The culture which glorifies projection of anger, hate, and rage needs to be dis-enfranchised. There needs to be an increase in acceptance of all that is gentle, tender, sensitive, and weak or broken in our beings.
We need to embrace those individuals in society who are different, who are broken,who are wounded mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
We need to embrace those who are lost, who are self-destructive or who use anger and hate against others to mask their woundedness and loneliness or isolation.