Possession: Pos – after or behind;
session- from sedere or sedentary- sitting for a while. Possession becomes a problem when there is a spending of excessive time in an activity rendering us incongruent, ineffective, and dysfunctional in our personal and professional lives.
Once we’ve been doing or being for some time we are described as having possessed that activity or state. It doesn’t really matter what it is that we’ve been doing or being, what matters is that we’ve spent some time committed to something, to some-thing; Performing an act or just being – we are said to having possessed that activity. The shift in meaning in modern times gets tied up with notions of ownership and exclusive access to a personal belonging or asset, and having rights of use over an item which one owns.
We can claim to possess knowledge, facts, or wisdom, and even though we claim possession or ownership, and can exchange it for money or other energy exchange medium it isn’t quite as tangible as some material item like a house, a car, or a flat screen TV. The intangible nature of facts, knowledge, or wisdom makes it more difficult to control, to exchange, or to value, and also to claim ownership or possession. We can claim to possess someone’s affections, loyalty, or commitment yet these are intangibles which are immeasurable and unquantifiable. However the perception of ownership or control affects our tendency towards compulsion and obsession.
Obsession– to spend an inordinate amount of energy or time involved in an activity. Ob-“toward, against, across, down,” also used as an intensive, from Latin ob “toward, to, over against, in the way of, by reason of, about, before, in front of”.
Obsess: “hostile action of an evil spirit” (like possession but without the spirit actually inhabiting the body). Transferred sense of “action of anything which engrosses the mind” ,”to besiege,” from Latin obsessus, past participle of “watch closely; besiege, occupy; stay, remain, abide” literally “sit opposite to, obsedere:” from ob “against” (see ob-) + sedere “sit” (see sedentary). Of evil spirits, “to haunt”.
When one obsesses about someone or something we are distracted from that which is at hand and can’t seem to focus or concentrate on work, relationships, or any other activity. The obsessing event, person, or thought or belief occupies the mind and emotions and appears to possess and overwhelm our being without us having control over its presence or intensity of control over our mind and emotions. When we obsess we appear and seem to others to be haunted or consumed and controlled by our object of obsession and attachment, whether that may be a loved one which we’ve lost, or a loved one which we don’t possess or control, perhaps a loved one who doesn’t even know we exist and about whom we have fabricated such deep affections and obsessive thoughts.
From fabricated perceptions and beliefs about possession the mind then develops an intensity of focus and attention on the attachment and the possession becomes obsession, and leads to compulsive repetitive thoughts, emotions, and behaviour which may be destructive to self and/or to others.
The compulsion is wrapped in delusion, in beliefs which are illusions, false, and unsubstantiated in reality. We can achieve freedom from obsession and compulsive behaviour by relinquishing possession of the belief or thought which has us trapped in delusion, by accepting that we are alone, that we are loved, that we are ok as we are, and that we don’t need to be fixed, because, although we may believe that we are broken or wounded, it is all a delusion. We are perfect and have all that we need to be happy, peaceful, and loving. We just have to believe it.