The difference between emotional love and spiritual love is that the first one is held in the sex and navel chakras with some confluence with the solar plexus chakra when there is fear of loss or anger from betrayal involved in relationship. On the other hand, the spiritual love which emanates from the heart chakra is totally pure and involved in the happiness of the other, without selfish motives of sex or attachment or dependence.
The emotional love binds us with attention , intention, and attachment to the physical and emotional lover. This is the origin of heartbreak and of emotional meltdown after relationships sever. It is unavoidable when the chemistry of attraction takes hold. The difference is our intent and motives in proceeding with the love energy: is it self-motivated for self-gratification or is it motivated by altruistic and generous good intention for the wellbeing of the other?
This is the way one discerns between physical emotional love and spiritual love. The difficulty in discernment arises because of the immediacy of the onset of sexual or physical emotional love such that the mind/heart control of the emotions and thoughts is over-ridden by the sexual desire and the compulsion for self-gratification.
The need for self-gratification can frustrate one’s attempts to be rational or altruistic in discernment when faced with the direct onslaught of passion and lustful desire. The ability to resist allowing ourselves to be controlled by our lower chakras and impulses is to practice loving kindness and generosity and non-injury through service and acts of unconditional giving and love. One cannot resist the strong passion and desire which rises from the sexual and solar plexus chakras unless one has practiced the opening of the heart and generated a lifestyle of giving and non-injury, of self-less giving unconditionally from the heart energy and space.
The satisfaction and gratification which arises from altruistic giving from the heart nourishes the soul which is eternal and infinite. It does not compare with the fleeting and temporal gratification of sensual orgasm and of sensory overload which evolves in physical emotional entanglement. The emotional entanglement which develops during the evolution of a physical emotional love encounter creates enmeshment of personalities, co-dependencies of desires, and expectations of reciprocity which creates further attachments.
Each attachment becomes a trigger point for delusion and suffering when the attention and intention of the lover is withdrawn and the ‘victim’ or ‘abandoned one’ is left bound within the spider web-like sticky emotional residue which doesn’t want to relinquish the attachments. The reluctance to accept that the game has ended and that the love is withdrawn leads to the emotional meltdown which one experiences when love is lost.