Dissolving relationships- causes and effects


The interesting discovery about reading someone else’s articles about healing and wellness really lights up for me how everyone’s perception about attachment, detachment, love, and change are different and based on their personal life experiences. I just read an article in the “Om Times” called ‘Understanding Breaking Up’. The author understands this phase of relationships deeply intellectually and experientialy. Breaking up is really a marker point in time and space for us where we’re forced to evaluate who we are, how we interact with others, and how wounded or well we are.
The experience of dissolution of a intimate relationship mirrors that of dying to someone or a loved one dying and leaving us. We will feel the most confused vortex and downward spiral of emotions ranging from anger, loss, denial, confusion, self-loathing, resentment, guilt, way before we get to the beloved bliss of acceptance.
The more we are aware the more we will understand that detachment involves clear perception of our identity, our attachments, and our woundedness or absence of wellness.
Awareness or expanded consciousness arises through introspection, reflection, openness of the heart and crown centers, and desire to love and be whole. The dualism which our minds live hampers our understanding the truth of our inter-relatedness. Our false perception of separateness and ego differentiation leads us to creating dependencies within relationships which only become apparent upon breaking up or dissolution of the marriage. Often marriage begins from a dysfunctional inner place and the attachments which are made stem from our woundedness and need for wholeness. This we seek within our partner and don’t learn to find it within ourselves. The label of co-dependency arises on our forehead and we move through life with a stamp on our foreheads saying:”I am depending on you for happiness”. This creates tension in a relationship and eventually disappointment and resentment and the need to separate to regain clearer insight into who we are, what we want and need, and where we’re going and with whom.
Some people are loving and strong enough to accomplish this journey within the relationship that they have previously chosen. With positive intent and love and kindness and respect this can be possible if both parties are open to the work and change involved.
Many couples don’t have both partners wanting to do the work and so dissolve.
It’s unfortunate that we’re attracted to others who contain the missing aspects of ourselves however this is what makes society work, individuals progress to becoming more whole, and relationships thrive and succeed; or not.

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About Pranic Roger

I have been developing my healing skills since 1998 and have been on a personal purification journey and free from substance dependency since 1989 following twenty-three years of dependency to nicotine and alcohol. I operate a fee-for-service healing facility and utilize deep-tissue massage techniques and pranic healing techniques to remove blockages to healing and surrender, and expulsion of negative energy thought forms and entities from the body, chakras, and aura. My website is: http://www.healingmassage.ca. The secondary website for more information about energy work is :http://www.pranichealing.ca, and www.pranichealingmb.com That's what goes on when I'm not outside nurturing my garden which occurs from April to November.
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