Our mental prison
by Roger Fontaine, march 2012
When I thought about this article I was a little concerned about beginning with what I felt were ‘negative’ themes and concepts. However the more I reflected on it, the more I thought that it was necessary to detail the concepts which are the basis for suffering as these are negative.
It’s true that we manifest what we think about so I don’t wish to emphasize these ‘negative’ concepts more than necessary to allow individuals trapped within this downward spiral of addictive and repetitive behaviours to find tools to rise above their sufferings and obtain freedom and inner peace and stillness and joy.
glamour or sometimes (US) glamor (ˈɡlæmə). —n. 1. charm and allure; fascination. 2. a. fascinating or voluptuous beauty, often dependent on artifice.(source: Wikipedia)
This is the basis for desire, attraction, craving, and then attachment. This is where the desire begins. The individual finds themselves attracted to a being or material object with the desire to possess it , consume it, exploit it, with the result that the outcome is predictable that the satisfaction is temporary and needs to be repeated to maintain the accompanying feeling of fulfillment or sustenance, or nourishment. These charms and fascinations begin as children with candy, sugar, and ferris wheels or carousels. The carnaval and cotton candy represents a child’s fantasy fulfilled.
As the child grows into puberty, lust and desire for sexual release and expression replace the child’s fascination with fantasy and begins to act towards realizing fantasy through sexual interactions and fulfillment of pleasure by orgasm and ejaculation.
Many psychiatric and addictive conditions develop over time from repetitive attempts to satisfy lustful needs through sex and repetitive disappointments and refusals from objects of desire, whether that be women or men.
The use of alcohol and drugs become part of this quest to fulfill the desire of lust and sexualization of reality increases the levels of illusions and delusions which the individual mind creates to sustain the mental and emotional ‘high’ which accompanies the sexual pursuit.
something that deceives by producing a false or misleading impression of reality. 2. the state or condition of being deceived; misapprehension. 3. an instance of …misperception.(source: Wikipedia)
That ‘something’ which deceives the mind is the false promise of an outcome which is pleasurable and filling some ‘need’ or ‘want’.
When an individual chooses to allow the mind to entertain these mental deceptions control is given away and freedom is lost.
The consequence of allowing our minds to rule us with illusions is that we behave against our best interests. We are allowing our minds to guide us into making choices and actions which mis-direct us away from joy and towards increased and renewed desire, craving, and suffering.
So how to transform these thoughts which are based on false perceptions and false beliefs?
The first step is to initiate mindfulness which allows us to ‘full-stop’ the thought in its infancy before it attaches an emotion or feeling to it and makes it stronger.
The problem with transforming our behaviour is that too often we entertain a thought, attach a memory emotion to it which re-connects to a past behaviour, reinforces it, reminds us of the outcome, and if temporarily pleasurable, leads us to addictive or compulsive-obsessive repetition of that behaviour in the search for the outcome,: exhilarating and creating euphoria as escape, or numbing pain and suffering which is another mode of escape.
The problem with this course of living is that once the drug has worn off the individual finds themselves back in the same previous state of insufficiency, emptiness, self-disgust, self-hate, which further depresses the self-image and furthers the downward spiral into darkness, despair, and suffering.
a false belief or opinion: delusions of grandeur. 4. Psychiatry. a fixed false belief that is resistant to reason or confrontation with actual fact: a paranoid delusion.(source: Wikipedia)
Delusions lead behavior down paths which are dangerous for both the individual and for the victims of the deluded actor. The delusion takes the individual from the first instance of glamour and illusion into a realm of reality which is filled with not only false beliefs about a situation but with fixed false beliefs to which reason cannot penetrate and which confrontation cannot correct (usually).
The deluded individual believes that someone else is attracted to them because they hold a fascination and desire to possess the object of attraction, usually a woman. These delusions become increasingly dangerous when the deluded individual is paranoid and their added fear or hatred makes them perform acts which are harmful to their victims and which are entirely absent of compassion or mercy towards their objects of attraction.
How do we deal with someone who is resistant to reason and to confrontation? How do we convince that individual that their beliefs are false and that the source of the fixed false belief is in the misperception or illusion which was created by a initial fascination or attraction to a ‘object of beauty’, ‘object of lustful desire’, ‘object of greed’, ‘object of envy’, ‘object of jealousy’?
The mind of the individual who has progressed down this path is obsessive and compulsive and becomes impulsive. The mind cannot be still but engages in repetitive looping of negative thoughts and lives in the future and the past with thoughts of “what if” and “if only” attempting to work out outcomes which would allow the fantasy to continue to manifest.
This individual is consumed with the obsessive and compulsive thoughts and cannot function in a work, relationship, or social context without making inappropriate actions and behaviours.
The downward spiral of dysfunction continues to intensify the despair, depression, and suffering which this individual endures. The use of drugs and alcohol and nicotine/cigarette use increases and the levels of violence used to obtain gratification increase.
What began as a fascination or attraction has through the process of internalization, illusion or false perception led to a false belief which has become fixed in the mind, to which emotions have been attached manifesting it into a thought entity which lives in the person’s energy body and which takes over the mind, and the willpower.
The will becomes controlled by glamour, illusion and delusion.
The mind becomes obsessive, compulsive, and impulsive.
The mind takes over the individual’s identity and the individual begins to identify themselves as ‘being their mind’ with no compassion or mercy for victims of their predatory pursuits.
The move out of this downward spiral begins with the realization or awareness of these processes occurring in the mind. There needs to be a recognition of responsibility for the functioning of one’s mind and for the attachments of emotions and of the consequences of one’s actions in order to begin the upward ascent into the reality of joy, inner peace, and bliss.
Next is the awareness of the attachments which have been made, the awareness of the presence of these strong emotions which have been connected to these thought memories, and the desire to begin the process of dis-entangling the loops of thought energies and emotion energies which control the individual.
Restoring control to the individual by the recognition that ‘we are not the body’, ‘we are not the mind’, ‘we are not the thoughts’, ‘we are not the emotions’, ‘WE ARE THE SOUL’.
Reflection on who we are as individuals, what is transitory and changeable, contrasted to what is permanent and immutable will be the necessary beginning to taking action and making changes which will be sustaining .
We are who we want to be. Energy follows thought, and emotions reflect experience.
Thinking love, peace, gratitude, and forgiveness are the foundations for transformation, for beginning the upward ascent towards joy, inner peace, and bliss.
Bliss is a place of heartful joy, emotional stillness, and mental calm.
We cannot navigate the waters when the waves are high. We cannot see through the waters until the waters are calm. We cannot see into the depths unless the light shines into the darkness and reveals to us the secrets which we have buried deep into our sub-conscious.
We must raise to the surface the insecurities, fears, doubts, and pains which we have buried and failed to own. We cannot heal the wounds of our past until we take ownership of them.
We have to be freed from the blame, and the shame of our past realities and sufferings to liberate us towards the expanse of space and emptiness/fullness which awaits us as we move from our physical focus towards a more spiritual and ethereal reality, in this life.