This is a topic which is constantly evolving in the awareness of everyone.
My degree of taking responsibility has evolved, like everyone else through the occurrence of crises, through making inappropriate decisions, and through the struggle of resisting addictive behaviour tendencies.
The taking of responsibility is an educative component which is too sadly neglected in the home and school. Mostly because parents and teachers don’t have the time, don’t take the time, don’t priorize the subject highly enough.
I know I will receive criticism from teachers that this is not their job. Actually, it is. Just like it’s the job of parents to socialize their children in the primary skills of living, so it is for the teachers to initiate the secondary socialization skills which are more social and interactive in substance and content.
The consequence is that we are seeing teenagers with few or no inner guides putting their lives and those around them in peril.
These inner guides which are developed over time would assist them in making proper and appropriate decisions when the need arises.
The pressure on teenagers to make proper and appropriate decisions is enormous; and it occurs every day.
The pressure comes from peers but also comes from inner cravings and hungry-devil energies which surround the person’s physical, emotional, and mental auras.
The ability of a teenager to control and suppress desires is variable and depends on awareness and ego-maturity.
The moment to instill ‘taking responsibility’ into a teenager starts when they are less than two years of age.
Teaching our children well is a parenting task which we may take too lightly.
Children need to be asked to take responsibility from the earliest moment to, for example, put away their toys, clean up their room, assist the parent with dishes, setting table, cleaning up with broom, shopping, etc.
The exercise is mostly cosmetic at the beginning but with repeated and constant reinforcement the behaviour will extend into other areas of the child’s life and become an inner guide to decision-making through their whole life.