As I was reading my last blog on ‘details and the big picture’ it led me to thinking about karma and reincarnation. Whether the character traits we have in this life which are part of our karma are transmitted through the ‘soul’ to be part of our next incarnation? I thought it over and decided, why not? makes perfect sense that if this life’s karma is carried over into the next incarnation that those character strengths and flaws which created that karma would also accompany the soul into the next life to so to speak ‘carry on’ the work which still needed to be done, in the evolutionary sense, of course.
This is a very delicate issue with many people who are rigid in their beliefs about sexual orientation or preferences. These people believe that heterosexual orientation is the only one which is ‘morally appropriate’ because it assists the reproduction of the species. And then I thought, what about gender choices? and sexual orientation? I know that in soul language or ‘soul speak’ there is no gender differentiation, because souls have no gender, but it’s only as we incarnate into this dualistic dimension of reality that we have to choose a gender, broadly speaking, when we think of physical reproductive extremes of hormones and genitalia as existential criteria of differentiation. So when we think of sexual differentiation within the mental construct of Andrea Dworkin: [ where sexual identity is on a spectrum from total female to totally male and that everyone finds themselves somewhere along this fluid spectrum,] with most individuals being at both extremes and easily identifiable as either male or female. But what about those individuals who identify themselves as having ‘confused or hemaphroditic’ sexual identities, what about them? How does their divine destiny play itself out having to spend one’s whole incarnation discerning whether one is either neither male or female, or both?
I find it interesting when we speak of reincarnation to discuss the likelihood of having been the ‘other’ gender in various past lives. Paramahansa Yogananda in his book on Karma and Reincarnation speaks to the fact that before we re-incarnate we pass through the ‘river of forgetfulness’ which wipes out our hard drive of our past life in which we would forget our past life memories and gender as well. However he also speaks to the fact that some individuals have more ability than others at remembering aspects of former lives by being attentive to what interests them in this life. He proposes that aspects of culture or gender which interest us in this life are probably remnants of memories from past lives of things which impacted or interested us deeply in past lives.
That seems to make sense to me as I have a keen interest in Indian food and female Indian attire. And this is strange as I have never been to India nor have I ever worn Indian saris, yet I have a deep fascination for both Indian food and Indian saris. Am I a cross-dresser? Not that I’m aware of. I cannot think of any other explanation. Having been an Indian woman in a recent past life would explain my fascination with wanting to go to India and with Indian culture in general.
Back to the issue of sexual orientation? When one thinks of it in terms of multiple incarnations isn’t it possible that one’s orientation or ‘major preference’ is for a certain sex based on whether one’s past lives memories have been positive or negative? Whether they’ve been successfully erased or maintained? Is it not possible that people with homosexual tendencies or preferences were the opposite sex in past lives and because they enjoyed so much being a certain gender that they would have retained that preference from their store consciousness into their next life even though their physical gender would have been the opposite gender. Am I making myself clear? Let me give an example: a woman in past life is reborn as a man. However she enjoyed being a woman so much in past life that she retained the attraction for men. That ‘s assuming that she was heterosexually attracted in her pastlife. So then when she re-incarnated into this life as a man she would still be attracted to men.
So here it is, she would be a woman/pas tlife in the body of a man/present life.
And what about people who are clearly bi-sexual: ie: that they are attracted equally to men and women. They may just be having retained their past life preferences from more than one past life when they were both men or women in past lives. That would explain why they would have bi-sexual preferences or orientations. They carried forth into this incarnation the preference from various past lives for both men and women.
Isn’t this an easier and more plausible explanation for having non-heterosexual preferences or orientations?
Isn’t this more plausible than the explanation that there is only one life, that we are hard-wired with one sexual orientation when we are incarnated and that it is not flexible? This explanation is not plausible because there are too many exceptions to this rigid rule. There are an estimated 10% or individuals who have homosexual preferences or orientations. We have no statistics on how many people are bi-sexual in their preferences or orientations. But let’s estimate that another 10% who would swing both ways easily. What does that say about sexual orientation being a biologically and genetically determined reality? When 20% of the population weren’t wired properly? That would imply that the divine template was defective in 20% of human incarnates? Doesn’t that sound implausible? It’s like saying that we would accept it if 20% of humans weren’t born with a heart or a brain? How could a genetic template have such a high error rate?
The only conclusion is that heterosexual orientation or preference is perhaps a majority reality only because of the fear of ‘coming out’ has been too painful, by penalty of death, until the last century. The other logical conclusion is that through the medium of technology and global communication there has developped a greater acceptance of the reality that gender differentiation is not genetically hard-wired nor is sexual preference or orientation. How it comes about that this person or that person has such or such sexual orientation doesn’t really matter. We don’t have to grasp at past life explanations to explain why someone may be or not be heterosexual or homosexual. There needs to be a evolutionary acceptance that sexual orientation is not attached to morality or ethics and that being hetero, homo, or bi, or transgendered is a natural re-incarnated reality for which humans need to be respected equally.
Just like we’ve come a long way in global evolutionary acceptance of races being equal we have also come a long way in accepting that gender differentiation doesn’t serve as criteria for unequal discrimination or treatment of people who are not ‘all the same’.